What makes a person invisible in this world?
I have a couple of friends that when engaged in “conversation”, they never reciprocate listening. If I wait for a pause (which is rare in their cases), I begin speaking and before I can get even half-way through my sentence, they continue on as if I my thoughts were not relevant.
It’s the most insulting and condescending way to have a conversation.
So I have decided that since they cannot hear me, I must be invisible to them on an emotional, intellectual or spiritual level. Therefore, they are not adding value to my life. I have determined to spend as little time with them as possible.
I am an almost crippling introvert, so I must practice being social. I purpose to make eye contact with strangers and greet them politely. This world can be so cold that I hope to help people through this casual, random connection, even though for me it is a great sacrifice of my comfort zone. Lately, it has become more and more difficult to even illicit a curt nod from folks. If I measure the state of my community, our country, and the world by a simple greeting, I find that we are making each other more and more invisible. Instead of our world opening up, it is closing in around us. Eventually, we will suffocate in our own isolation.
Even if I wish it at times, I cannot shut out the world. I am a woman of faith.
But my faith sometimes makes me invisible. What I mean by that is if I am in a conversation (an actual conversation) with someone who wants to speak about national problems, world problems, personal problems, etc. and I mention faith-based solutions, I get the glass-eyed no response look. I have just become invisible in the conversation.
Faith-based solutions typically require personal involvement, a level of mercy and emotional risk. Most people are so self-involved that they cannot imagine making themselves vulnerable to help someone, or to consider an opinion that differs from theirs so a conversation involving mutual learning can take place.
We are all connected. And many of us are starving-emotionally, spiritually, or physically.
If you feel invisible, create vision. Surround yourself with people who will create vision with you. One candle gives a little light and a small amount of heat. But many candles will brighten the world and warm the coldest night. Or the coldest heart.
And when we shine, no matter who we are, and no matter the circumstances we find ourselves in, we can no longer be invisible.
Matthew 5:14-16 (NIV)
14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.