My son is 21 and lives with us. He goes out occasionally, which is fine because after all-he’s an adult.

I still wait up for him when he goes out.

The truth is, I stay up and pray. And then when he comes home, I ask him how things went.

He usually tells me. Within reason. I’m his mom after all, and some stuff isn’t my business.

In my view, the transition between adulthood and manhood (which any parent knows is not the same), can be a sketchy and slippery bridge.

I know my son will make mistakes. We all make them-even as adults, and that’s the nature of life. But as his mom, it’s important to me to put as many sign posts on that growing bridge as possible, so that when he leaves our home he’ll have the tools to survive.

I have been accused of being a helicopter mom. That’s fine.

And if I can be a Boeing AH-64E Apache Guardian, I’m down.

But here’s the thing.

I believe the Heavenly Father guides us and protects us through all our transitions, from the cradle to the grave-and beyond. He never stops. But no one would accuse Him of being a helicopter parent.

It’s just what He does. And thank goodness. There have been some rickety places on my growing bridge, too.

So, I believe I am in good company. What do you think?


Psalm 121 (NIV)

A song of ascents.

I lift up my eyes to the mountains—
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord,
the Maker of heaven and earth.

He will not let your foot slip—
he who watches over you will not slumber;
indeed, he who watches over Israel
will neither slumber nor sleep.

The Lord watches over you—
the Lord is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day,
nor the moon by night.

The Lord will keep you from all harm—
he will watch over your life;
the Lord will watch over your coming and going
both now and forevermore.







2 thoughts on “Flyover”

  1. My thoughts often rumble around here (not your personal story, but the average story of which yours seems to fit). I think about writing my thoughts a lot, but they are not clear with conclusion and all that. In fact, they disturb me, to be honest. If my reaction here disturbs you, and if you choose not to publish it, I will sympathize.

    You made this statement:

    I believe the Heavenly Father guides us and protects us through all our transitions, from the cradle to the grave-and beyond.

    And for me, at least, it concedes too much. Perhaps I misunderstand you, but I doubt that. I really think you are already disturbed and trying hard to comfort yourself by owning up to some discomfort. Some vague notion of “healthy” discomfort or something. And I just don’t get that.

    I certainly believe the Heavenly Father cares about you and your son and the transitions he makes in life. But the rhetoric in your statement paints the picture of transitions such as “leaving home” as somehow normal and good. And the thing is, our culture dictates that idea to us. And does so with such intensity that it is almost impossible to question it or suggest otherwise.

    Now… I know there have been people growing up and leaving home since the dawn of time, almost. We even see a few heroes of the faith do it. But what if those are exceptions to the divine order and not really the norm at all.

    If we lived in an agricultural society of 150 – 200 years ago or more, SOME of us would have done that, but MOST of us would not. The single biggest employer would be the family farm which the children would inherit and tend throughout their lives and pass on to their children. “Leaving HOME” would not be THE NORM, and would be frowned upon by many. But in modern America, we do the opposite and hardly imagine otherwise.

    But just because I paint this counter intuitive picture (AND ASSUMING it attracts you) in no way whatsoever suggests how we either get back to that now or reform our culture to such an ideal in a forward progression. There are pockets in our society where this ag style inheritance of home and work can be handed down, but most of us don’t even have such an option to contemplate. So what’s the use in talking about it?

    I don’t know. As I said, I don’t have some fine conclusion. And if you are catching my drift, it surely disturbs you to think about it.

    I have been thinking of writing a post on raising good kids in a crooked world. What advantage do my kids have if I don’t teach them to lie, cheat, or forcefully take from others? If I don’t teach them to protect themselves from others doing this? Surely they wont in fact survive the transition! I need to raise kids to be shrewd business people, to not only recognize an opportunity, but to screw their neighbors out of the chance at it so that they can seize it when it arises! Otherwise, they haven’t got a chance!

    You know in the Bible the people of God are told not to lend with interest??? But if I get a 401k, what am I doing to my fellow man/woman? In fact, my checking account boasts interest payments as an edge so that I will do business with this bank! But charging interest cripples debtors fast! That is why God forbids it, but it is how my Christian university sold me a Bible education where they taught me this stuff. How ironic is that?

    I don’t have a clear conclusion, but I am certain that Jesus is Lord and the church is his Body incarnate in the world today. We church people need to start taking that more seriously than just a spiritual country club thingy and devoting ourselves to following him in that cross-carrying level, I think. And we need to get God our of the box as we think outside the box too.

    The children of Israel found themselves in captivity in Babylon. God was with them there, so say the prophets. He can help us in our misguided culture today too, but we need to find that HOME signal those ancestors had as they ‘assimilated” and make it ours too. I think the church is the direction in which to point for conclusions to this stuff.

    Meanwhile, I just don’t want to concede so much to our culture. Point that boy to Jesus and lets get our skin in this church thingy at a world-challenging level that hopefully will attract your boy’s heart and mind ever deeper to the Savior – which is where you really want him anyway.

    I hope that all makes sense.


    1. X, I am going to approve the comment, because I do not fear any opinion, and welcome discourse of all kinds. My son grew up in a Scripture-based teaching church and understands the Word, what it means to him in his life, and how to make his own faith-based decisions. And he understands me as his mother, and what that responsibility means to me-as much as he is able as my child. I am not going to get into a discourse here regarding the prevailing culture and faith-based living. But what I will tell you is, that I have heard you.But X, my blog is based on my individual musings, from my experiences, and the growth of my individual faith-warts and all. Many folks have questions, opinions, and beliefs about how to exist in this fallen world. What you read on my blog is simply my take on it. Nothing more, nothing less. But I do know that growth is never comfortable, and neither is being disturbed. One thing I must tell you though, X. I am at peace. I am at peace with my imperfections as a woman, a mother, a wife, and a human being who follows the teachings of Christ. My writings may imply a disturbance of some sort, but if they do, it is not intentional, but only a reflection of a simple woman working out her faith.


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